I watched mean girls recently. It was a bad idea. I really hated most of it and I got upset with myself for ever liking it in the first place. I mean... yes, it still has a few funny moments and... sure, it's a story about acceptance or whatever but the African in me was just mad at it. All of that aside, the fact that it pissed me off got me thinking about why the movie is so iconic in pop culture and I got stuck on one of the lines in the movie. You guessed it:
'The limit does not exist.' - Cady Heron
Fair warning: this is one of those posts that are meant to motivate you. In an attempt to achieve that goal, there will be some cheesiness.
Now, let's proceed-
I got to thinking about what that statement could be applied to and somehow, my mind started connecting that to the goals that I have set for myself this year.
I have decided that when it comes to the following things ( list below), the limit does not exist:
Because.... I like coffee.
I've been trying to limit myself to one cup (or less) a day and It's been working. I found out that i can actually function without coffee but the truth is that, i don't want to. I love a good latte and damnit, if I want a Venti Vanilla Latte with 2 extra shots at 4 o'clock in the afternoon, well that is me & my insomnia's business.
Ok, maybe 1 extra shot.
2. Emotional moments
Here is what I have come to realize: if you are having an emotional moment, like a moment of pure anxiety for example, and you push it aside. It doesn't change the fact that you had that moment and experienced those feelings! Now, you have to distract yourself and deal with it again later or carry a toned down version of whatever it was until you can actually address it because believe me, it will come up again.
I understand that you can not give into every little feeling that you have but the truth is, actually accepting your what you are feeling and trying to get to the root of it is a lot more effective that just pushing it aside.
I am one of those people who only "allow" themselves to breakdown in certain places or at certain times. I think one of the reasons I ever got to a place where I have to breakdown is because I didn't let myself feel the small stuff and deal with the small stuff. We are emotional people!
So the limit for those unwelcome inconvenient feelings that we experience, does not exist.
I am talking about literal positivity. The optimism and motivation that it brings.
I think we get so focused on being realistic that we forget that dreaming a little and being positive about those dreams makes a difference. Vision boards, words of affirmation, motivational quotes... surround yourself with all of it. You can and should surround yourself with things and people that will remind you that a positive attitude is far more likely to help you get places.
I did warn you that this would get cheesy.
4. Learning and Unlearning
Every single day, we learn something new. Maybe not an actual fact but we learn something about someone or something. Most importantly though, we can learn about ourselves. Because I have a tendency to overthink, I often tried to limit the introspection that I did but the truth is, you are constantly changing and the only way to try and make sure that you are changing for the better is by looking inwards.
All that learning, unlearning and introspection I'm suggesting you do? Books can help you with it. They can also help you relax. They can also help you be more positive. Books are just.... the freaking best! I try to limit the number of books I buy ( I'm going to keep doing that because I am not a Rockefeller) but I am trying to broaden my horizons. There are so many kinds of books out there and I have been so focused on such a small number of them.
What is the maximum number of books a person can read?
I'm sure this is not accurate but I am choosing to believe that the limit does not exist.
There you go.
These are the thoughts that I had this afternoon and I thought I would share them with you in order to get back into the groove of things.
What do you think this statement applies to?